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perv435
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I've never been with a woman (or a man, or anyone else). But if I do in the future, I don't know how I'll deal with it. I'm supposed to adapt to "gentle" sex, yet the fantasy I have every night is neither gentle nor sex. I'm supposed to be the dominant partner because I'm a man, but the idea of being dominant doesn't turn me on. Hell, sex itself doesn't turn me on!

I believe that I'm capable of having sex and enjoying it. But I doubt I'll ever fantasize about it. It's like the Woody Allen film where Woody is in bed with a prostitute and she asks him what took him so long and he says he was having trouble coming up with a fantasy. That's what the idea of sex feels like to me: like a means to an end. That's why I have no interest in conventional porn. I pretty much avoid all porn, since I can't find anything matching my fantasy.

How abnormal is this? I don't know. I'm sure there are people in more difficult positions than me. I'm sure there are people who can't have sex at all, or who get a sense of revulsion at the idea. I'm not like that. But I've never actually fantasized about "having sex" with anyone. Never. I've tried. The "idea" of it just doesn't excite me. And it actually feels a bit weird and alien to me. Having eccentric fantasies of some kind may be very common, but I suspect that my situation, where my fetish has actually replaced normal sex in my mind, is quite a bit less common. Any thoughts?

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There's absolutely nothing abnormal about this, what you need to do is stop fantasising and find out the reality behind your desires. Express yourself :-D

Try going to a munch or something, just remember femdoms are people too and are never perfect (although don't let them hear you say that).

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Well at least someone else hasn't abandoned this board.

What's a munch?
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